She continued, “The second place is work, where a lot of people spend the majority of their time, but it’s a very structured environment with an expectation of roles, responsibilities, possibly even a uniform, and you’re being told how you will show up and what will occur in this space. And it can be a bit transactional, in that you do this to get paid and benefits, though hopefully people are working in places that bring them passion, as well.”
Then, there’s that “third place,” informal places, “where you’re not coming in with the status, you’re not coming in with the title,” Rocco said. “You’re going to see people that you know; maybe you’re in a coffee shop and the baristas may recognize you and know your name … The biggest thing about a ‘third place’ is that individuals feel a sense of belonging when they’re in these places, that you’re not having to earn your right; you’re not applying for the job. There’s not a key to the house to unlock the door to get in.”
Through its debate series, the Third Place, as a community organization, takes the sociological concept a step further by creating opportunities for what they call “transformational connection,” Rocco said. “All we’re asking people to do is show up with your opinion, debate your opinion, but also to lean in, or lean back, and listen, as well.”
Rather than focusing on politically charged issues, the debates start with topics that can inspire strong opinions without necessarily carrying high stakes.
The format eventually moves into more substantive discussions, with prepared speakers taking on topics, though the goal isn’t necessarily to determine a winner.