What if counseling weren\u2019t a last resort for couples whose marriage was on the rocks?<\/p>\n
Kerry Washington<\/a> says that she and her husband of 13 years, NFL player-turned-actor Nnamdi Asomugha<\/a>, were proactive about couples therapy, and turned to the practice before there were any pressing issues to address in their marriage.<\/p>\n \u201cWe\u00a0started couples therapy\u00a0before anything was wrong \u2026 kind of preventatively,\u201d she told Alex Cooper on the \u201cCall Her Daddy\u201d podcast. <\/p>\n \u201cHe was newer to therapy, I feel like I\u2019ve been in therapy my whole life,\u201d she said. \u201cWe were like, \u2018We should just start having these conversations so that if something does get hard, we already have a culture of knowing how to talk about stuff.\u2019\u201d <\/p>\n She added, \u201cI\u2019m obsessed with couples therapy. It\u2019s my favorite. It\u2019s like part logistics meeting, part party, part date in the afternoon. I so look forward to it. We start every session with something that the other person did well. Like something that we appreciate about the other person.\u201d <\/p>\n Washington called her therapy sessions with Asomugha \u201cthe best part of my week,\u201d and said that she is often surprised by the comments he makes when they start their sessions with complimenting one another. <\/p>\n \u201cSo often the thing he shares with me that he appreciated\u2014or the thing I share with him\u2014it\u2019s not something I would\u2019ve guessed. It\u2019s something that to me was small, but to him it meant a lot,\u201d she said, adding that this part of the session helps them \u201clearn how to love each other better.\u201d <\/p>\n This tidbit about Washington and Asomugha\u2019s marriage is a rare insight into the couple\u2019s relationship, which has been kept mostly private despite having high-profile careers in TV, film, and sports. They married in 2013, after dating for four years, in a low-key ceremony held in Idaho. And they have two children together, a boy and a girl, and Washington is a stepmother to Asomugha\u2019s daughter from a previous relationship. <\/p>\n