{"id":218394,"date":"2026-05-03T18:47:40","date_gmt":"2026-05-03T18:47:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/218394\/"},"modified":"2026-05-03T18:47:40","modified_gmt":"2026-05-03T18:47:40","slug":"is-tooth-brushing-at-work-gross","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/218394\/","title":{"rendered":"Is Tooth Brushing at Work Gross?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"css-ac37hb evys1bk0\">I want to be kind because your intentions seem good. But I\u2019m also not entirely clear on what your intentions are. Are you trying to help your colleagues? It doesn\u2019t sound like you have any guarantee that your boss would reapportion your raise to other employees, and I\u2019m not sure how much solace they would extract from this act of self-denial.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-ac37hb evys1bk0\">In fact, I suspect they\u2019d mostly find it confusing. You\u2019re living comfortably right now, but who knows what the next decade could bring? You might lose your job; you might fall in love with someone who lives on the other side of the country; a piano could fall on your head, Looney Tunes-style. There are many eventualities that could suddenly put you in the same boat as your \u201cstruggling\u201d co-workers. They understand this by virtue of their own circumstances, which is why they would no doubt happily take a raise right now if one was offered, and why they\u2019re not likely to be impressed by your eschewal.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-ac37hb evys1bk0\">Maybe you\u2019re trying to assuage the guilt you feel at being the beneficiary of an unequal system. If that\u2019s the case, why not use your position of security and influence to advocate better pay for your peers? If you don\u2019t need the extra money, why not take and redistribute it \u2014 say, to labor or inequality-focused causes, or even directly to other employees?<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-ac37hb evys1bk0\">If you\u2019re worried about a rift opening up between yourself and your lower-paid colleagues, picking up the lunch tab once or twice a week and supporting their interests in your capacity as a respected, higher-level employee will go a lot farther at strengthening bonds of solidarity than loudly telling everyone you turned down a raise because you know they\u2019re all worse off.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-ac37hb evys1bk0\">And if you don\u2019t care about the interpersonal office dynamics, and are asking the question out of a wholly abstract sense of fairness and justice, that\u2019s even more reason to accept the raise. When you negotiate your salary, you\u2019re negotiating not only on behalf of yourself but also, indirectly, on behalf of anyone who might take the job after you. If you accept less than what your employer is willing to pay, you\u2019re setting a lower floor out of which any successor will have to negotiate. You may be financially solid, but will that person be?<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-ac37hb evys1bk0\">Indeed, on some level you\u2019re negotiating on behalf of anyone else doing the same kind of work, now and in the future, at any workplace, and the salary you accept can provide a reference point for both bosses and employees elsewhere. You might be satisfied with your current rate, and want to avoid the appearance of greed in front of less fortunate co-workers. But the symbolic solidarity of refusing a raise is worth a lot less than the real aid of putting upward pressure on wages.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"I want to be kind because your intentions seem good. 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