As many young adults are discovering, a good salary doesn\u2019t always translate into financial security.<\/p>\n
Imagine Indira, a 29-year-old registered nurse in New York City who earns about $125,000 a year. By most standards, it\u2019s the kind of salary that should feel comfortable \u2014 especially for someone just a few years into her career. In reality, though, it doesn\u2019t feel that way for Indira.<\/p>\n
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She pays roughly $3,000 for a one-bedroom apartment in Manhattan \u2014 a \u201clucky find,\u201d as she describes it \u2014 with rent stabilization and utilities included. But even at a \u201cdiscounted\u201d rate for the city, housing alone eats a significant share of her income.<\/p>\n
Indira contributes regularly to a Roth IRA and puts 14% of her paycheck into a retirement plan through work. On top of that, she\u2019s still paying off student loans from nursing school.<\/p>\n
However, what weighs on her more than any of it is what\u2019s happening at home.<\/p>\n
Her parents immigrated to the U.S. years ago and spent most of their working lives prioritizing their children\u2019s education \u2014 both for Indira and her older brother. Like many immigrant families, retirement planning took a back seat to tuition, rent and simply making it through each year.<\/p>\n
Now they\u2019re nearing an age where retirement is no longer far off, and Indira is starting to wonder whether she\u2019s the one who should fill the gap.<\/p>\n
When adult kids become the retirement plan <\/p>\n
Indira\u2019s situation is hardly uncommon, especially among children of immigrants and first-generation professionals.<\/p>\n
More adults are finding themselves in the position of helping support aging parents, sometimes while still trying to get their own financial footing. Roughly 13% of young adults reported providing financial support to their parents between 2010 and 2022, according to Urban Institute (1).<\/p>\n
As a result, many are finding it harder to save for their own retirement, often leading them to cut back on contributions or delay long-term planning altogether.<\/p>\n
For Indira, that tension has started to sit in the background of almost every financial decision she makes. She doesn\u2019t feel resentment toward her parents. If anything, she feels the opposite. They gave up a lot when they moved to the U.S., and most of what they earned went toward raising her and her brother. Retirement just never really became the priority.<\/p>\n
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The question Indira keeps coming back to is whether she should adjust her own life \u2014 give up her Manhattan apartment, take on roommates or move somewhere cheaper \u2014 so she can send money back home and help build some kind of retirement cushion for them. But she worries about what that means long-term for her own financial stability.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s a dilemma more young professionals are running into, especially in expensive cities where even solid salaries don\u2019t stretch as far as expected. A six-figure income in New York City can still feel tight once rent, debt payments and retirement contributions are all in the mix.<\/p>\n
Read More: About 1 in 5 Americans over 50 has zero retirement savings. Here’s why it’s not too late<\/a><\/p>\n And housing alone often takes a significant bite \u2014 typically a third or more of gross income in major U.S. cities, with Manhattan consistently ranking among the most expensive rental markets in the country (2).<\/p>\n For Indira, it all comes down to how much of her own financial future she would be willing to trade for her parents\u2019 security.<\/p>\n How much should you sacrifice? <\/p>\n The real question isn\u2019t whether helping parents is the right thing to do \u2014 it\u2019s how much the proffered help is actually sustainable without putting long-term stability at risk.<\/p>\n A lot of retirement planners point out that early savings matter more than people think. Compounding does most of its work in the background, which means even modest cuts to retirement contributions in your 20s can add up to a much smaller balance later on.<\/p>\n That\u2019s where the tension sits for Indira. Every dollar she sends to her parents is a dollar that isn\u2019t being invested in her own future. At the same time, doing nothing doesn\u2019t feel like a viable option either.<\/p>\n Now, she\u2019s thinking about whether there are other ways to approach helping her parents. For example, Indira could help them stretch what they already have \u2014 perhaps by easing them into lower-cost living arrangements, or delaying retirement if that\u2019s even possible.<\/p>\n For people in a similar position, planners often suggest starting with a simple reality check (3), which includes what amount of support is actually sustainable without touching retirement contributions or emergency savings.<\/p>\n In immigrant families especially, conversations about retirement planning are often delayed or avoided entirely, which can make the burden feel sudden when it finally lands on the next generation.<\/p>\n This doesn\u2019t have to be an all-or-nothing decision. In some cases, setting boundaries (4) \u2014 like a fixed monthly amount, or revisiting support levels annually \u2014 can help prevent resentment and keep both generations on more stable footing.<\/p>\n Indira may find herself wishing there had been more open discussion about retirement earlier on \u2014 and not just about education and success, but about what comes after.<\/p>\n For now, she hasn\u2019t made a decision. She still loves her apartment, and she still values the independence she worked hard to achieve. But she also feels a pressure building every time she looks at her parents and thinks about what their next decade might look like.<\/p>\n And for many young professionals in expensive cities \u2014 especially those helping support aging immigrant parents \u2014 that can feel like the most accurate version of financial life.<\/p>\n You May Also Like <\/p>\n Join 250,000+ readers and get Moneywise\u2019s best stories and exclusive interviews first \u2014 clear insights curated and delivered weekly. Subscribe now.<\/a><\/p>\n Article Sources <\/p>\n We rely only on vetted sources and credible third-party reporting. For details, see our ethics and guidelines<\/a>.<\/p>\n Urban Institute (1<\/a>); USAFacts (2<\/a>); ProjectionLab (3<\/a>); Fairstone (4<\/a>).<\/p>\n This article originally appeared on Moneywise.com<\/a> under the title: I earn $125K as a nurse in NYC, but I\u2019m barely getting by. 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