{"id":273618,"date":"2026-06-22T06:32:22","date_gmt":"2026-06-22T06:32:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/273618\/"},"modified":"2026-06-22T06:32:22","modified_gmt":"2026-06-22T06:32:22","slug":"why-fatherhood-matters-more-than-ever-before","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/273618\/","title":{"rendered":"Why fatherhood matters more than ever\u00a0before"},"content":{"rendered":"

(The Conversation<\/a>) \u2013 Long gone are\u00a0the days of the distant dad<\/a>.<\/p>\n

According to some estimates, the average time dads spend caring for their kids each day\u00a0has quadrupled over the past 50 years<\/a>. Their attitudes about parenting are also changing. Today, men are about as likely as mothers to say parenting is a key source of meaning and a central priority in their lives. Roughly\u00a085% of fathers<\/a>\u00a0identify parenthood as one of the most important aspects of their identity.<\/p>\n

As a\u00a0parenting researcher who focuses on fathers<\/a>, I\u2019m pleased to see that dads are so invested in their kids. It correlates with\u00a0better outcomes for kids<\/a>, and it\u00a0reduces pressure on moms<\/a>.<\/p>\n

But there\u2019s a less encouraging trend tucked into these gains. More is being asked of dads \u2013 and moms, for that matter \u2013 because the extended family and community networks that once supported childrearing have\u00a0shrunk or deteriorated<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Parenting alone<\/p>\n

In researching my new book, \u201cDad Brain: The New Science of Fatherhood and How it Shapes Men\u2019s Lives<\/a>,\u201d I talked to an anthropologist named Barry Hewlett, who has spent his career studying hunter-gatherer fathers.<\/p>\n

One society he studies, the Aka Pygmies of the Central Congo, have been called \u201cthe best fathers in the world<\/a>\u201d for their dedication to childcare. Aka men are frequently observed within arms reach of their infants and take a lead role in raising them. Children are seen as central to men\u2019s lives.<\/p>\n

However, if you compare the time Aka dads spent on childcare with recent data on American parents, as\u00a0parenting writer Tomo Kumaki recently did<\/a>, you might be surprised.<\/p>\n

According to\u00a02024 American Time Use Survey data<\/a>\u00a0\u2013 considered the gold standard of evidence on how Americans are spending their time \u2013 American dads of infants are devoting about 125 minutes a day to what\u2019s called \u201cprimary child care,\u201d in which their main activity is tending to the child. They\u2019re spending another 394 minutes on what\u2019s known as \u201csecondary child care<\/a>,\u201d which involves watching a child while doing something else, such as cooking dinner or straightening up the house.<\/p>\n

In contrast,\u00a0according to Hewlett\u2019s research from the field<\/a>, Aka fathers of infants spend about 57 minutes a day on primary and 96 minutes a day on secondary childcare.<\/p>\n

The minutes American dads relayed should be taken with a grain of salt; it\u2019s a stretch to compare an anthropologist\u2019s direct observations with self-reported time diary data, which can often be subject to bias. Still, it\u2019s striking to see how \u2013 based on these calculations, at least \u2013 today\u2019s new dads are devoting far more time to parenting than a society described as having the best dads in the world.<\/p>\n

\"Children<\/a>Among the Aka people, who are indigenous, nomadic hunter-gatherers native to Central Africa, men take a lead role in raising their children.\u00a0Andia\/Universal Images Group via Getty Images<\/a><\/p>\n

When I spoke with him about how fatherhood has changed, Hewlett told me he thinks the role of fathers has taken on more importance today than ever before \u2013 not just because mothers\u00a0are more likely to have jobs outside the home<\/a>, but because there are simply fewer childcare helpers around.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re surrounded by your kin and neighbors in a communal setting like the Aka, it\u2019s easy to get assistance with kids. Fathers care for children, but so do lots of other people.<\/p>\n

A 2021 study of another hunter-gatherer society,\u00a0the Agta<\/a>, which lives in the mountains of the Philippines, found that fathers provided only about 7% of child care. Mothers, however, provided only about 25%. The rest came from siblings, grandparents, extended family, peers and other community members, who all pitch in.<\/p>\n

A class divide<\/p>\n

In much of the industrialized world, daily life is organized around the nuclear family, with relatives and neighbors playing a less central role than they once did.<\/p>\n

Today\u2019s fathers contribute more to childcare than even the most hands-on hunter-gatherer dad, because there\u2019s simply less of a village to support shared care.<\/p>\n

Even as men are being asked to take on a bigger role in childcare, it\u2019s become harder for some men to do so. That\u2019s because \u2013 in the U.S., at least \u2013 the time men are able to spend on childcare has become\u00a0increasingly stratified by class<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Journalists Derek Thompson and Aziz Sunderji analyzed\u00a0multiple waves of U.S. data<\/a>\u00a0collected by the Multinational Time Use Study and were able to show that the significant rise in the time dads spend parenting over the past 60 years has primarily been driven by college-educated fathers.<\/p>\n

When the Multinational Time Use Study started in the 1960s, fathers with a college degree were devoting only a few extra minutes per day to childcare compared with noncollege-educated dads. But the gap has quintupled over that time span, such that college-educated dads are now spending 46 more minutes with their kids each day compared with noncollege-educated dads.<\/p>\n

So why the growing divide? In part, it\u2019s because benefits such as universal paid paternity leave and stable, flexible work options are available only to dads with good jobs.<\/p>\n

Only about\u00a0half of U.S. fathers<\/a>\u00a0take any paid paternity leave following the birth of a new baby, because many employers don\u2019t offer it. In theory, most dads who can\u2019t access paid leave should be eligible for unpaid leave through the\u00a01993 Family and Medical Leave Act<\/a>. However, since that legislation doesn\u2019t apply to small businesses or many part-time or gig work situations, about\u00a044% of workers are ineligible for it<\/a>. Low-wage dads are also often reluctant to take leave because they can\u2019t afford to lose income.<\/p>\n

The rise of what sociologists call\u00a0intensive parenting<\/a>\u00a0among the most educated, affluent parents also helps account for some of the class divide in parenting time. As the wealth gap between the richest and poorest Americans\u00a0has widened<\/a>\u00a0over the past 60 years, many parents have been eager to optimize their children\u2019s success. Devoting extra time to children, including monitoring their schoolwork and enrolling them in enrichment activities that require time and money, has become\u00a0one way for parents with privilege<\/a>\u00a0to give their children a leg up.<\/p>\n

In my view, hands-on parenting should not be a luxury good. Americans should be fighting for policies that empower all dads, no matter their income, to enjoy time with their children. The village could use some rehabilitation, too, since parents fare best when they have\u00a0access to community support and stronger connections<\/a>\u00a0with their neighbors, friends and family.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"(The Conversation) \u2013 Long gone are\u00a0the days of the distant dad. According to some estimates, the average time…\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":273619,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[39],"tags":[9,24,491,63,134,136,135],"class_list":["post-273618","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-staten-island","tag-new-york","tag-new-york-city","tag-nmw","tag-nyc","tag-staten-island","tag-staten-island-headlines","tag-staten-island-news"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/273618","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=273618"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/273618\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/273619"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=273618"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=273618"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=273618"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}