{"id":316700,"date":"2026-08-08T14:00:27","date_gmt":"2026-08-08T14:00:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/316700\/"},"modified":"2026-08-08T14:00:27","modified_gmt":"2026-08-08T14:00:27","slug":"i-moved-to-nyc-at-22-and-lived-with-a-70-year-old-roommate-she-had-rules-meals-and-a-busier-social-life-than-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/316700\/","title":{"rendered":"I moved to NYC at 22 and lived with a 70-year-old roommate. She had rules, meals, and a busier social life than me."},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">William Swanson, 22, moved to New York and needed to find a short-term rental.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">After scouring the internet, he found a listing on SpareRoom from a 70-year-old woman.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">Swanson moved in with her and found that despite their age difference, she was the perfect roommate.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with William Swanson, a 22-year-old working in medical sales who <a data-ylk=\"slk:moved to New York;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas;\" data-yga=\"{&quot;yLinkElement&quot;:&quot;link&quot;,&quot;yLinkElementType&quot;:&quot;article_link&quot;}\" href=\"https:\/\/www.businessinsider.com\/moved-to-new-york-for-job-gave-up-dream-home-2025-9?utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_source=yahoocom&amp;utm_medium=syndication&amp;utm_source=yahoo\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\" target=\"_blank\">moved to New York<\/a> in June. The conversation has been edited for length and clarity.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">I had just graduated from college and was moving from Massachusetts to New York for a job starting in June. I planned to get an apartment with friends, but they wouldn&#8217;t arrive in the city until the end of July. Since they didn&#8217;t want to start paying New York rent before they needed to, I had to find a short-term place to stay in the meantime.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">Finding long-term <a data-ylk=\"slk:housing in New York;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas;\" data-yga=\"{&quot;yLinkElement&quot;:&quot;link&quot;,&quot;yLinkElementType&quot;:&quot;article_link&quot;}\" href=\"https:\/\/www.businessinsider.com\/nyc-housing-affordability-maps-renters-2026-4?utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_source=yahoocom&amp;utm_medium=syndication&amp;utm_source=yahoo\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\" target=\"_blank\">housing in New York<\/a> is already difficult, and looking for a short-term lease is even harder. I was in a time crunch and didn&#8217;t really know where to start.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">I wanted to live close to the hospital where I&#8217;d be working because I was new to the city and unfamiliar with public transportation. I was also just starting out, so I wanted something affordable that was still safe.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">There are a bunch of NYC Facebook groups where people post things like, &#8220;My roommate just left, and we&#8217;re looking for someone to fill their spot.&#8221; Those can be good, but you have to get lucky with the timing and location.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">I also <a data-ylk=\"slk:looked on Airbnb;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas;\" data-yga=\"{&quot;yLinkElement&quot;:&quot;link&quot;,&quot;yLinkElementType&quot;:&quot;article_link&quot;}\" href=\"https:\/\/www.businessinsider.com\/airbnb-solo-travel-safety-tip-2026-8?utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_source=yahoocom&amp;utm_medium=syndication&amp;utm_source=yahoo\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\" target=\"_blank\">looked on Airbnb<\/a> and websites like SpareRoom and Furnished Finder. I reached out to a few people, but some of the situations were weird. It would be like, &#8220;My cousin is sleeping on the couch,&#8221; or, &#8220;Someone else might also be staying in the room.&#8221; So I avoided those.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">Eventually, I found a listing from a 70-year-old woman named Aleyda on SpareRoom. We messaged a little, and I figured she was probably a safer bet. It was an unusual living arrangement, but I decided to take a chance.<\/p>\n<p>I took a risk, and it was worth it<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">I FaceTimed Aleyda to see the apartment, but the person I spoke with wasn&#8217;t even her. It was a younger guy who lived in the building and was helping translate for her because she spoke Spanish.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">He showed me around the apartment, and I liked it. Still, I was a little suspicious because I thought, &#8220;I&#8217;m not even meeting the person I&#8217;m going to be living with.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">I told my parents. My dad, who&#8217;s <a data-ylk=\"slk:from Boston;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas;\" data-yga=\"{&quot;yLinkElement&quot;:&quot;link&quot;,&quot;yLinkElementType&quot;:&quot;article_link&quot;}\" href=\"https:\/\/www.businessinsider.com\/moved-from-boston-area-to-upstate-new-york-pros-cons-2026-5?utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_source=yahoocom&amp;utm_medium=syndication&amp;utm_source=yahoo\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\" target=\"_blank\">from Boston<\/a>, was basically like, &#8220;Yeah, you&#8217;ll be fine.&#8221; My mom was more concerned.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">Being a guy made it feel a little less scary. So I decided to go for it and hope the apartment actually existed. Worst case, I figured I&#8217;d get a hotel or find something else.<\/p>\n<p><img alt=\"A person stands near hanging clothes in a narrow empty room with wood flooring and luggage.\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"960\" height=\"720\" decoding=\"async\" data-nimg=\"1\" class=\"rounded-lg\" style=\"color:transparent\" src=\"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/https:\/\/media.zenfs.com\/en\/business_insider_consolidated_articles_886\/9d97305d2f3ea72007af43f62a65fd.jpeg\"\/><\/p>\n<p>Swanson in his NYC bedroom in the apartment that he shared with Aleyda.Courtesy of William Swanson<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">On move-in day, I finally met Aleyda and was relieved to find out she was a real person and I wasn&#8217;t getting scammed. My parents helped me move in because they wanted to meet her, too.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">She was incredibly nice and caring. I remember my mom was taken aback by how lucky I had gotten. I had somehow found the perfect roommate.<\/p>\n<p>We had an unusual but great living arrangement<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">I don&#8217;t know too much about Aleyda because I didn&#8217;t want to ask her too many questions. What I do know is that I was the 11th or 12th person she had rented the room to.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">Aleyda&#8217;s apartment has three bedrooms, a kitchen, and a small living room. She sleeps in one bedroom, another is used for storage, and mine was near the bathroom we shared.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">I paid about $1,900 for the month without utilities, which is objectively insane. But <a data-ylk=\"slk:short-term rentals;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas;\" data-yga=\"{&quot;yLinkElement&quot;:&quot;link&quot;,&quot;yLinkElementType&quot;:&quot;article_link&quot;}\" href=\"https:\/\/www.businessinsider.com\/airbnb-host-how-to-select-a-short-term-rental-property-2025-10?utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_source=yahoocom&amp;utm_medium=syndication&amp;utm_source=yahoo\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\" target=\"_blank\">short-term rentals<\/a> are more expensive, and it was still one of the better deals I could find in a great location. I figured I&#8217;d eat the cost for a month.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">Aleyda speaks Spanish, so a lot of the time we texted, and I think she used some kind of <a data-ylk=\"slk:AI to help with translation;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas;\" data-yga=\"{&quot;yLinkElement&quot;:&quot;link&quot;,&quot;yLinkElementType&quot;:&quot;article_link&quot;}\" href=\"https:\/\/www.businessinsider.com\/language-translator-uses-ai-wont-replace-adapt-2024-10?utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_source=yahoocom&amp;utm_medium=syndication&amp;utm_source=yahoo\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\" target=\"_blank\">AI to help with translation<\/a>. I also have a Colombian friend who speaks Spanish, so sometimes I&#8217;d FaceTime him to help us communicate. Other times, the neighbor would help.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">It was obviously a nontraditional living situation \u2014 a 22-year-old guy living with a 70-year-old woman \u2014 but she was super laid-back and let me do my own thing.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">She had a few rules: no partying, drugs, drinking, or having a bunch of people over. Basically, she was like, &#8220;Whatever you do outside my apartment, I can&#8217;t control.&#8221; I thought that was fair. I was coming into her home, so I was going to play by her rules.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">Aleyda had a social life of her own. She was always out with friends. Sometimes she&#8217;d make me meals, and I&#8217;d ask her to eat with me, but she&#8217;d be like, &#8220;No, I&#8217;m busy. I have somewhere to go, but please eat.&#8221; Some nights, she&#8217;d stay up watching TV way later than I did, which was kind of funny.<\/p>\n<p><img alt=\"A plate of rice, grilled salmon, corn, and mixed vegetables sits on a glass dining table.\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"960\" height=\"720\" decoding=\"async\" data-nimg=\"1\" class=\"rounded-lg\" style=\"color:transparent\" src=\"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/https:\/\/media.zenfs.com\/en\/business_insider_consolidated_articles_886\/f355aa35df4365fd53b256bcbd852b.jpeg\"\/><\/p>\n<p>A meal Aleyda made for Swanson.Courtesy of William Swanson<\/p>\n<p>The NYC rental market is difficult to navigate<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">While I was living with Aleyda, I had boots on the ground touring apartments for my future roommates and me.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">I was looking for listings on StreetEasy and Zillow. Local New Yorkers will sometimes make fun of people for using StreetEasy, but a lot of them seem to have connections or just know how the market works. Some of my friends even have rent-stabilized apartments that were passed down to them.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">The <a data-ylk=\"slk:New York rental market;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas;\" data-yga=\"{&quot;yLinkElement&quot;:&quot;link&quot;,&quot;yLinkElementType&quot;:&quot;article_link&quot;}\" href=\"https:\/\/www.businessinsider.com\/mamdani-nyc-rent-freeze-explained-who-qualifies-when-starts-2026-6?utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_source=yahoocom&amp;utm_medium=syndication&amp;utm_source=yahoo\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\" target=\"_blank\">New York rental market<\/a> is insane, so if you&#8217;re coming to the city with no connections, it&#8217;s much harder. You might not know which websites to use or which listings to trust.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">Sometimes I&#8217;d show up to a listing, and there would literally be 100 people touring it. It definitely tempted me to stay at Aleyda&#8217;s, but she already had someone lined up for the room once my one-month lease ended.<\/p>\n<p><img alt=\"Person sits on a bed beside an open cardboard box in a bedroom with a suitcase and dresser nearby.\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"960\" height=\"720\" decoding=\"async\" data-nimg=\"1\" class=\"rounded-lg\" style=\"color:transparent\" src=\"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/https:\/\/media.zenfs.com\/en\/business_insider_consolidated_articles_886\/ea24d65f718aa6e497ff96bc49ad2b.jpeg\"\/><\/p>\n<p>Swanson in his new bedroom.Courtesy of William Swanson<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">Eventually, my roommates and I found a pretty decent place in the East Village. I pay around $1,975 before utilities \u2014 pretty similar to what I was paying before. We really lucked out. If you find anything for under $2,000 in Manhattan, you&#8217;re lucky.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">There are definitely upsides and downsides to my new place. I have my own room, so I&#8217;m more relaxed, because I don&#8217;t have to tiptoe around someone else&#8217;s home. While it&#8217;s nice to have that freedom, I don&#8217;t have an abuelita looking after me anymore.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\"><a data-ylk=\"slk:New York;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas;\" data-yga=\"{&quot;yLinkElement&quot;:&quot;link&quot;,&quot;yLinkElementType&quot;:&quot;article_link&quot;}\" href=\"https:\/\/www.businessinsider.com\/relocating-from-nyc-to-atlanta-moving-tips-regrets-2026-8?utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_source=yahoocom&amp;utm_medium=syndication&amp;utm_source=yahoo\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\" target=\"_blank\">New York<\/a> kind of forces you to say yes and try new things. Living with Aleyda was an awesome experience. She welcomed me into her home and put a lot of trust in me. 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