{"id":43358,"date":"2025-11-18T06:57:23","date_gmt":"2025-11-18T06:57:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/43358\/"},"modified":"2025-11-18T06:57:23","modified_gmt":"2025-11-18T06:57:23","slug":"parents-should-ask-babies-for-consent-before-changing-their-diapers-experts","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/43358\/","title":{"rendered":"Parents should ask babies for &#8216;consent&#8217; before changing their diapers: experts"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>It\u2019s a move that might\u00a0stink\u00a0to some parents, but there\u2019s a new-age way to change a newborn\u2019s undies.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Drenched diapers are no longer messes that need to be ripped off a baby\u2019s bottom posthaste, according to new advice <a href=\"https:\/\/theconversation.com\/nappy-changes-are-not-just-a-chore-to-rush-through-you-can-use-them-to-teach-consent-269509\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">by early childhood development researchers<\/a> in Australia.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, the experts encourage moms and dads to request an infant\u2019s consent \u2014 you read that correctly \u2014 before changing their diaper.<\/p>\n<p>A new report urges new parents to talk to their babies about changing their diapers in order to teach little ones about consent. sementsova321 \u2013 stock.adobe.com<\/p>\n<p>\u201cAt the start of a nappy change, ensure your child knows what is happening,\u201d researchers from Deakin University wrote in a November 2025 guide. \u201cGet down to their level and say, \u2018You need a nappy change,\u2019 and then pause so they can take this in.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>But their offbeat directives for cleaning a cutie\u2019s patootie \u2014 a task that parents often rush to \u201cjust get done,\u201d the researchers said \u2014 don\u2019t end there.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThen you can say, \u2018Do you want to walk [or] crawl with me to the [changing] table, or would you like me to carry you?\u2019\u201d said the specialists, seemingly ignoring that newborns can\u2019t yet actually chat up mom or dad one-on-one. \u201cObserve their facial expressions and body language to check if they understand what is happening.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>The experts further noted: \u201cThis can be a time to help children learn about consent and how their bodies work.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>The authors of the report did not immediately respond to The Post\u2019s request for a comment.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>However, having heart-to-hearts with rugrats every time they go No. 1 or 2 could fall under the ever-controversial <a href=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/2025\/05\/14\/lifestyle\/gentle-parenting-excuses-kids-bad-behavior-mom-says\/\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">category of gentle parenting<\/a>.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s an ultra-permissive, anti-authoritarian approach to child-rearing that prioritizes\u00a0empathy, respect, connection and communication over rules and punishments.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>The softy strategy is popular with <a href=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/2025\/09\/23\/lifestyle\/this-parenting-trend-is-becoming-more-popular-new-study-reveals\/\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">Gen Zers and millennials<\/a> \u2014 mothers and fathers under age 46. However, it\u2019s been widely bashed by online critics who claim the overindulgent, unconventional parenting style turns untamed tykes <a href=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/2024\/07\/15\/lifestyle\/my-sister-uses-hippy-dippy-gentle-parenting-her-kids-are-hellions\/\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">into knee-high \u201chellions.\u201d<\/a><\/p>\n<p>The new research additionally recommends inviting babies to participate in the grooming ritual, asking them questions like \u201cCan you please lift up your bottom so I can slide your nappy out?\u201d \u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThese habits plant the seed of the idea that a child has the right to say what happens to their body,\u201d assured the academics.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Eccentricity notwithstanding,\u00a0Yamalis Diaz, <a href=\"https:\/\/nyulangone.org\/doctors\/1548685290\/yamalis-diaz\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">a clinical child psychologist<\/a> with NYU Langone Health, suggested to The Post that verbally involving a baby in the diaper-changing process is great practice for future discussions about body autonomy \u2014 even if the infant can\u2019t yet high-five a parent for a diaper-changing job well done.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThis is more about integrating the teaching of consent into the [adult\u2019s] parenting practices early on,\u201d Diaz said. \u201cIt\u2019s aimed at increasing the parents\u2019 awareness of all the ways that the need for consent occurs in a child\u2019s life.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Psychologists agree that talking to a baby about their anatomy sets the stage for long-term self-governance. Getty Images<\/p>\n<p>When it comes to having these important chats with kiddos, the sooner, the better, Diaz added. Ensuring consent remains \u201cpart of the conversations throughout early development.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cParents and kids will be more comfortable talking about and establishing boundaries,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n<p>Lesley Koeppel, a NYC-based psychotherapist, agrees.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u201cBabies cannot verbally agree or disagree, but parents can still narrate what they are doing,\u201d she told The Post. \u201cThis builds a foundation for bodily autonomy long before a child has language.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Of course, Koeppel clarified that talking consent with babies is \u201csymbolic rather than literal.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThe validity of this approach lies in its message. You matter. Your body matters. I will always tell you what I am doing,\u201d she said. \u201cThis becomes the template for healthy boundaries later in life.\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Still, the Deakin researchers maintain that gentle diaper-changing is a game-changer when it comes to teaching babies about safety.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u201cIt\u2019s important children notice when someone is touching their most intimate parts,\u201d said the insiders, warning parents not to distract small children with songs, toys or rattles during the changing process.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u201cEven in early infancy, children can respond to consistent verbal cues,\u201d they noted. \u201cSo try to use similar language and follow regular nappy changing routines that involve children in conversation.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Experts advocate for the use of proper names of private parts, ensuring that kids learn about their anatomy during infancy.  zinkevych \u2013 stock.adobe.com<\/p>\n<p>They even strongly propose using the anatomically correct names for private parts \u2014 such as vulva, penis and anus \u2014 while changing and bathing a baby.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u201cParents may feel uncomfortable doing this and think more childish names should be used,\u201d acknowledged the researchers. \u201cBut this keeps children safe, as it means they can then inform trusted adults about their experiences with all the people who care for them.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>The pros said their pre-potty training pointers are meant to help, rather than overwhelm, busy mommies and daddies worldwide.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThe habits we outline above may also seem to add more work to the already demanding parental load,\u201d they concede. \u201cSo try and do them as often as possible and be kind to yourself if every nappy change isn\u2019t a perfect moment of connection.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cYou are supporting a small child after all.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"It\u2019s a move that might\u00a0stink\u00a0to some parents, but there\u2019s a new-age way to change a newborn\u2019s undies.\u00a0 Drenched&hellip;\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":43359,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[7986,1583,4207,68,232,13083,9,11,10,63,233,239],"class_list":["post-43358","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-new-york","tag-babies","tag-child","tag-children","tag-exclusive","tag-lifestyle","tag-moms","tag-new-york","tag-new-york-headlines","tag-new-york-news","tag-nyc","tag-parenting","tag-parenting-advice"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/43358","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=43358"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/43358\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/43359"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=43358"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=43358"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=43358"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}