{"id":86308,"date":"2026-01-01T06:49:10","date_gmt":"2026-01-01T06:49:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/86308\/"},"modified":"2026-01-01T06:49:10","modified_gmt":"2026-01-01T06:49:10","slug":"unemployed-friend-still-wants-to-go-on-a-trip-to-nyc-with-no-money-but-his-buddy-thinks-its-unfair-to-expect-him-to-cover-for-him-twistedsifter","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ny\/86308\/","title":{"rendered":"Unemployed Friend Still Wants To Go On A Trip To NYC With No Money, But His Buddy Thinks It\u2019s Unfair To Expect Him To Cover For Him \u00bb TwistedSifter"},"content":{"rendered":"

\t\t\t\t\t\t\"People\"People<\/p>\n

Unsplash\/Reddit<\/p>\n

Adult relationships require exchange. But what happens when a friend gets too comfortable not putting in any effort?<\/p>\n

In today\u2019s story<\/a>, a man shares how one of his friends doesn\u2019t feel like it\u2019s fair to pay for his own expenses on a trip to NYC.<\/p>\n

Are they bad friends for wanting him to bring his own money, even though he\u2019s currently unemployed?<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s read the whole story.<\/p>\n

I have a few online friends that I\u2019ve been friends with for over 10 years, that I play games with.<\/p>\n

We have linked up a couple of times in the past, and it has been good memories.<\/p>\n

One of the friends in this group, we\u2019ll call him John, has not been financially well-off since I\u2019ve known him since he was 15 (he is now 25).<\/p>\n

I love the guy to death, but no job and no school, just has sat at home playing video games for his whole life and never had a job.<\/p>\n

And I\u2019m not trying to throw him under the bus, but it\u2019s just the harsh truth.<\/p>\n

My online friend group has had trips in the past, and each trip we are always having to cover for John because we don\u2019t want him to feel left out.<\/p>\n

But he got a little too comfortable with this setup.<\/p>\n

Anyways, we all 4 are supposed to meet up in NYC this weekend as it has been 2 years since we\u2019ve all seen each other in person.<\/p>\n

I understand everyone\u2019s financial situation is different, but 3 of us have jobs and money to spend in NYC for the weekend.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m grateful that I\u2019m a software engineer and make good money, but even then, my budget for NYC for the weekend was just going to be $100-200 a day.<\/p>\n

We\u2019ve had this trip planned for months, and this entire time I figured John would have the funds to have some spending money for the weekend.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s now 2 days before the trip and we are being told he has -$9 in his bank account and only $50 left on his credit card to spend.<\/p>\n

They had to be honest with him.<\/p>\n

We have made a point to him that we have gotten tired of covering for him and that it is going to be difficult to have an enjoyable time in NYC when he has no money to spend.<\/p>\n

John has now gotten very upset at us but we are at the point where we feel that it is unfair to us to be expected to cover for him.<\/p>\n

Let me preface by saying he doesn\u2019t expect us to cover for him, but also, how are we supposed to even do anything?<\/p>\n

Stuff in NYC costs money, whether it be clubs, food, or stores.<\/p>\n

And we wanted to go to a nice dinner, this has been planned for months.<\/p>\n

But this might hurt the friendship.<\/p>\n

And obviously as friends, we don\u2019t want him to feel left out, but at the same time we don\u2019t want to continue covering for him and we would just feel bad if we go to a nice restaurant and he just sits there.<\/p>\n

But yeah, that\u2019s the situation right now.<\/p>\n

I will say I am very frustrated but I\u2019m not sure if I\u2019m sounding like a bad friend to him and to myself.<\/p>\n

AITA?<\/p>\n

They will help him more if they stop enabling his behavior.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s see how Reddit reacted to this.<\/p>\n

Exactly.<\/p>\n

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It\u2019s easy for him.<\/p>\n

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Suspicious, indeed.<\/p>\n

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Another reader shares their thoughts.<\/p>\n

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Yup.<\/p>\n

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Ideally, he should even want to pay them back, not take more.<\/p>\n

He\u2019s also taking them for granted.<\/p>\n

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a daughter who invited herself to her parents\u2019 40th anniversary vacation for all the wrong reasons<\/a>.<\/p>\n

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