{"id":294792,"date":"2026-09-27T02:50:07","date_gmt":"2026-09-27T02:50:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-pa\/294792\/"},"modified":"2026-09-27T02:50:07","modified_gmt":"2026-09-27T02:50:07","slug":"first-a-tattoo-now-a-divorce-hair-cut","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-pa\/294792\/","title":{"rendered":"First a tattoo, now a divorce hair cut"},"content":{"rendered":"

Big transitions can be frightening and overwhelming. I\u2019m not trying to reinvent myself, just find my true self. Like many folx, I had plans to do interesting things, like tattoos. <\/p>\n

I waited and waited \u2013 30, 40, 45, 50 \u2013 okay 50 was during the pandemic \u2013 so at age 55 I got my first and second tattoos. No regrets.<\/p>\n

When I was a kid, my parents kept my hair short. I remember thinking I\u2019d like longer hair in high school, but having this idea that I couldn\u2019t or shouldn\u2019t grow long hair. So I didn\u2019t until I was in my mid-20s, then I cut it off, grew a little bit got some highlights, listened to someone tell me my hair wasn\u2019t really lesbian enough \u2013 so I cut it off again. <\/p>\n

I began growing it out about 16 years ago when I was first disabled. I did get it cut occasionally to keep the hair healthy, but always a blunt cut. I wanted long hair. <\/p>\n

This week, I saw an ad from the salon I use \u2013 Motive Salon on the Northside.<\/a> I scheduled for the next day, scrolled through images, and decided I wanted some version of a bob\/pixie. My stylist, Nichole, was thrilled. She talked me into a chin length bob, added a bunch of layers, and we made lot of jokes about bangs, divorce, and so forth. <\/p>\n

I like the outcome, but that isn\u2019t the point. I went in and took control of how this lesbian looks \u2013 it is my hair, my body. My hair grows very quickly so worst case scenario is I let it grow out.<\/p>\n

I regret giving anyone power to tell me how to dress, wear my hair, what jewelry to wear \u2013 I\u2019m not just talking about my divorce \u2013 and if I should get a tattoo. Pleasing other people rarely works out the way we hope. It can go from a simple acquiescence to a passive-aggressive control tactic. It is a characteristic I don\u2019t love about myself, I\u2019ve done a lot of harm to myself and likely to others. <\/p>\n

I was a little worried what I would do with all of these scrunchies \u2013 I love them so much and have scores. Fortunately, I have enough hair to use them to put it up when I need to see \u2013 like when I\u2019m blogging or cooking or doing cat litter boxes. <\/p>\n

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