DEAR ABBY: After a recent gathering for my granddaughter’s graduation, I am feeling depressed and upset. Unflattering pictures of me were taken during the event and later posted on social media.
I wasn’t asked, and I think it was done maliciously by the grandmother on the other side. She posted no candid pictures of herself, only ones that were planned and staged.
I don’t feel I can ask that they be taken down without causing a rift.
I did post a suggestion on the site about privacy and pictures. That grandma has read my message but hasn’t taken the hint to remove them. This has led to unpleasant memories of an otherwise memorable and happy event.
Why don’t people realize that no-longer-young individuals don’t want terrible pictures splashed all over the internet? — EMBARRASSED IN NORTH CAROLINA
DEAR EMBARRASSED: Your granddaughter’s graduation was all about her and her accomplishment. It wasn’t a “Mirror, mirror on the wall” contest of which grandmother is the fairer.
Try to focus more closely on the spirit of the occasion and less on any unfortunate picture that was posted later. If you do, you may see the humor in this.
You wrote that older people don’t want terrible pictures splashed all over the internet. News flash: Younger people like it even less. Laugh and the world laughs with you. And toss the sour grapes into the garbage.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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