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A woman wrote in a post on Mumsnet that she wants to spend some of her husband’s $80,000 inheritance on a vacation
The wife said her partner wants to instead invest the large sum of money received from his father
“I’d love to take [our children] to Florida before our eldest leaves home. It’s not something we’d ordinarily be able to afford,” said the woman
A woman wants to spend some of her husband’s $80,000 inheritance on a vacation — because she feels he has “benefitted considerably” from her own family over the years.
In a post on the U.K.-based forum Mumsnet, the woman said her husband is set to inherit around $80,000 following the death of his father.
Explaining that her partner said he plans to invest the money when the time comes, the woman wrote, “Fair enough. It’s his money,” before she asked the if she would be in the wrong “to ask him to put a small portion towards a family vacation?”
“I’d love to take [our children] to Florida before our eldest leaves home. It’s not something we’d ordinarily be able to afford,” the Mumsnet user said.
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Woman using a phone to book a flight (stock image).
According to the woman, she has received around $8,000 in inheritances that have been used for family vacations or put into the couple’s joint account on her end.
“My parents and grandparents are very generous by nature and have gifted us money for a house deposit, wedding, etc. [and] taken us on vacations, loaned money for home improvements, given cash gifts at Christmas, whereas his parents were really quite frugal,” she wrote.
“We come from families that, despite having similar incomes, have very different attitudes to money, and it’s reflected in our own outlooks on money, I think,” the woman continued.
The Mumsnet user added that her husband has “benefitted considerably” from her family’s generosity.
“[Am I being unreasonable] to ask him to use some of this money to pay towards a family vacation, or is it a bit grabby?!” the woman then asked, concluding her post.
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Responses in the comments section encouraged the woman to ask her husband to book the family vacation, but many users warned her that she may not get the answer she is looking for.
“You would not be unreasonable to ask. But I think your rationale is skewed,” one person commented.
“Assuming the investment will ultimately be you as a family, then you have both used family money to benefit the family — yours was holidays and treats, his in long long-term investments,” they added.
Another said, “I would imagine a holiday would take a significant portion of this. You can ask, but he may feel this is not a good use of the money, especially if his parents were frugal.”
“I think it’s a bit selfish to invest it for someone’s own retirement and not use any of it for family stuff,” one more person wrote. “I appreciate that not everyone feels that way. When I inherited a large amount, the first thing I did was use it to pay off our mortgage and book a special family holiday.
“I love my family and want to use it to make our lives better and more enjoyable in the here and now. I don’t think you’re unreasonable at all to ask,” the same person added.
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