Andie MacDowell is dropping some pearls of wisdom about aging on The Drew Barrymore Show. 

During Tuesday’s episode, the 67-year-old Four Weddings and a Funeral actress joined host Drew Barrymore’s “50 F— Its” panel via video message to call out the unfair societal expectation that women must always “look young” even as they get older. 

“Our dear friend of the show who comes here all the time — and someone I worked with when I was 16 years old — the great Andie MacDowell, she sent us in a video,” Barrymore explained before the clip, referencing their 1994 Western Bad Girls. “And I think it really talks about and addresses some of the expectations that we put on ourselves, that society puts on us. Take a look at this.”

Drew Barrymore and Andie MacDowell on ‘The Drew Barrymore Show’.

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In the video, MacDowell could be seen standing in a doorway dressed in a floral button-up, tweed blazer, and silver glasses. 

“I love you, Drew! Thank you for doing this,” she began. “I look back at my grandmother, who was the matriarch. A strong woman. We just revered her. We respected her. We never would’ve ever expected her to look young. That was not a concept that existed.” 

MacDowell went on to note that this expectation to fit into the standard of beauty has only caused women harm as they age throughout their lives. 

“This concept has demeaned us as we age. It has now made us feel shameful,” she pointed out. “I have three little grandchildren and I’m gonna be a grandmother for them and I’m gonna look like I’m supposed to look, because I love myself. And I don’t have to look young. And I love you for doing this!”

The camera then cut back to The Drew Barrymore Show studio, where Barrymore declared, “I have chills.”

As part of Tuesday’s episode, Barrymore assembled MacDowell, as well as pals Halle Berry, Valerie Bertinelli, and Nate Burleson, to have an open conversation about the realities that women face when they turn 50, from experiencing perimenopause to ditching societal expectations.  

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“I was 54, and felt like I got dropped into hell and nobody ever talked to me about [perimenopause],” Berry, who founded the menopausal care company Respin, explained. “I was scared. I was alone. I had no one to talk to. I didn’t know what to do. I thought I was losing my mind.”

She continued, “And I thought, ‘Oh, this is what’s happening. I’m getting old now. Now I just go off into oblivion and nobody’s gonna care anymore.’ That’s what I felt. And I was very depressed. Very depressed. And cried all the time — I was a mess.”

Drew Barrymore, Halle Berry, Valerie Bertinelli, and Nate Burleson on ‘The Drew Barrymore Show’.

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Bertinelli added that she had to turn 64 before she “caught on” that she had to put herself first. “I was that people pleaser for far too long,” she said. “And I just decided after everything that had happened to me last year, I’m done. I have to care about myself. And at this age, I care less about what people who don’t know me think about me.” 

Burleson also encouraged men to check in with their partners and have open conversations about their experience with menopause and where they can help. 

“To talk to [my wife Atoya] and be transparent and ask her, ‘What have I been doing and where am I lacking?’” he said. “The way she opened up just because I’m on this show, it put us in a better position.” 

He added that he felt “terrible” for not knowing that Atoya was experiencing perimenopausal symptoms like hot flashes and mood swings. 

“But there lies the difference between knowing somebody is going through something and then standing there with them while they’re going through something,” he said. “And hearing their experience. And it’s so important when it comes to the women in our lives because they are a different, a much better, a much sexier, a much more heightened, elevated version of who they used to be.” 

The Drew Barrymore Show airs weekdays on CBS.