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A woman said that a relative recently texted and requested to “borrow” money for an “urgent” reason
She said she has only met the relative twice in her life
The woman shared her story on a community forum and asked others what they thought she should do
A woman says that a relative who she barely knows recently asked to borrow money, and she’s not sure what to do about it.
The woman shared her story on the “Am I Being Unreasonable?” forum on the U.K-based community site Mumsnet.com, a place where people can go to seek input on a variety of interpersonal topics.
In her post, the original poster (OP) shared that she and her parents recently came back from visiting family abroad. She said that shortly after returning home, one of her relatives texted and asked to “borrow money.”
“Bear in mind, I’ve met her twice — the last time being 12 days ago and before that about 10 years ago when she was a child,” the OP explained.
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“She said she would pay it back in a few months and that it was ‘urgent’ — to the point where she was texting multiple times in a row,” she added.
The woman said that she is not only shocked by the unexpected request, but she is also “annoyed” due to the fact that the relative didn’t ask for a specific amount, but rather “asked me ‘how much I’d be willing to give.’ ”
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The OP said that she has since told her parents about the request and they are “also baffled.”
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“AIBU [am I being unreasonable] to say ‘no’ outright, despite [the relative] knowing we obviously have some money to travel (having just seen them all)?” she asked at the end of her post.
In a follow-up comment, the OP clarified that the relative in question lives in a small rural area, and that her family gave their family cash on their recent visit as is the “custom” in that area of the world.
Commenters unanimously agreed that the OP should not lend her relative the money.
“Sounds like there may be a family or cultural tradition where your parents have sent money to relatives back home? And now the younger generation have been brought up with this and are expecting money from you,” one person said, before adding, “Families are complicated and if you don’t want to do this then don’t. You might need to block the relative though as it doesn’t sound like they’ll stop asking.”
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“They are being very cheeky. I would respond sorry I’m broke not sure how I’ll make it to payday myself,” said some else.
Someone else suggested a simpler route and advised the OP to “say no and stick to it,” then “block and ignore” if needed.
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