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It must be a frustrating world out there for a therapist. First, they have to deal with people all the time, which must be pretty tiresome. Then there\u2019s the fact that we\u2019ve all taken to Google to diagnose ourselves and those around us, despite our woeful lack of qualifications to do so (although all of our exes definitely are sociopaths). And if all that wasn\u2019t enough, now some of us are apparently using chatbots as a form of free therapy. Like doctors watching the masses perform open-heart surgeries on themselves by way of YouTube tutorials, one can only imagine the range of small horrors that mental health experts must encounter on a daily basis. So I set out to ask the therapists of the world, what\u2019s bothering them these days, and what, exactly, do we do that drives them up the wall and round the bend?<\/p>\n
From using the term \u201csocial snacking\u201d incorrectly to flippantly labelling others as narcissists, Dr Charlotte Armitage explained her frustration that, \u201cdiagnostic labels have made their way into everyday vernacular but many, more often than not, describe what would be considered as the normal human experience rather than a psychopathology\u201d. So, your colleague might just be rude and probably isn\u2019t suffering from an undiagnosed personality disorder. And yes, you may like your cupboards to be organised. Does that mean you have OCD? It does not. <\/p>\n
2. Blindly believe social media<\/p>\n
Clinical psychologist Dr. Emma Hepburn (@thepsychologymum) warned that we \u201c[shouldn\u2019t] assume the mental health or psychology posts on social media are actually correct because actually, research shows that about 80% of them are incorrect\u201d. <\/p>\n
And even the times when they are correct, Dr. Hepburn explained her exasperation with people following the advice of online strangers, highlighting that, \u201cjust because it works for one person, doesn\u2019t mean that it works for you. You\u2019re a complex individual who has [your] own needs\u201d. Needs that, might not be the same as a lifestyle influencer flogging protein powder while relaxing on a yacht in Jamaica.<\/p>\n
3. Be Ourselves, In General! (But Actually, It\u2019s Them) <\/p>\n
Psychotherapist and author of The Phone Addiction Workbook Hilda Burke says: \u201cThe number one thing for therapists\u2026usually the most irksome is the fact that clients will sometimes, in a kind of almost spooky way, [reflect] your own issues\u201d. Burke explained that clients can come to therapists with problems that closely mirror the therapist\u2019s own – a phenomenon known as a \u201cparallel process\u201d – and that sometimes a therapist doesn\u2019t initially register that their client\u2019s circumstance mirrors his or her own. \u201cWhen we [ask] ourselves as therapists, why is this client really getting under my skin\u2026it\u2019s often because, \u2018ah ok – well, actually I do that and I\u2019m struggling to change that in myself [too]\u201d.<\/p>\n
4. Use The Word \u201cNeurospicy\u201d<\/p>\n
Chartered psychologist and author Dr. Audrey Tang described her irritation with the term \u201cneurospicy\u201d, a modern umbrella term for a range of neurodiversities. While she understands the reasons for it, and why people want to \u201creclaim\u201d these neurodiversities and feel more empowered, her grievance comes when the term detracts from the conditions themselves. \u201cI don\u2019t have a problem with why people do it, I do have a problem if people want to take that into a discussion where the word has meaning\u2026it undervalues when a word like ADHD, or OCD, or a diagnosis has meaning\u201d. Ultimately, in situations such as the workplace, where a diagnosis like ADHD can enable people to request additional resources, Dr. Tang\u2019s frustration lies when people use the term \u201cneurospicy\u201d and expect it to carry the same weight as a diagnosed condition.<\/p>\n
5. Apologise (during therapy) <\/p>\n
Tasha Bailey, psychotherapist and author wants people to stop apologising for crying in sessions, explaining that: \u201cTears are not a weakness \u2014 they\u2019re a sign you feel safe enough to share. Vulnerability is a gift, and allowing yourself to show it is evidence that you\u2019re doing \u2018the work\u2019\u201d. Equally, therapist Sally Brown felt it was unnecessary for clients to apologise for their problems not being \u201cbig\u201d enough for therapy: \u201cYou don\u2019t need to be in the grip of a major life crisis to benefit from time spent looking at your life, relationships, feelings and patterns \u2013 in fact, you can only do the deeper, life changing work when you\u2019re not in crisis.\u201d<\/p>\n
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Therapists wish we would stop apologising for… being in therapy<\/p>\n
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So, fear not – your therapist isn\u2019t judging you for crying or because your childhood wasn\u2019t as traumatic as Harry Potter\u2019s, and yes – they do still think that you should be in therapy regardless of the \u2018size\u2019 of your problems. \u201cI\u2019m a therapist \u2013 I think everyone should be in therapy!\u201d, Brown emphasised.<\/p>\n
Hashtagging \u201cMenopause\u201d<\/p>\n
Dr. Tang also wants everyone to calm down on the hashtagging, especially \u201cputting menopause on everything.\u201d In 2025 it probably wouldn\u2019t kill us to just stop hashtagging, in general.<\/p>\n
There were plenty more bugbears that didn\u2019t make the list but, overall, it was clear therapists are pretty fed up with us trying to digest complex mental health issues via social media platforms that were initially intended for dance videos. We are all strange, weird, unique little creatures, and if we want to find out what\u2019s going on inside our heads, we\u2019re probably best off talking to a professional and not taking advice for coping mechanisms from a chatbot, via TikTok, or by way of Molly Mae. They\u2019d also like us to get off our phones while in sessions (please). #menopause<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"It must be a frustrating world out there for a therapist. First, they have to deal with people…\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":141419,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[60],"tags":[3796,88013,97,259,260,3007,37164],"class_list":{"0":"post-141418","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-mental-health","8":"tag-adhd","9":"tag-five","10":"tag-health","11":"tag-mental-health","12":"tag-mentalhealth","13":"tag-relationships","14":"tag-therapy"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/141418","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=141418"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/141418\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/141419"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=141418"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=141418"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=141418"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}