I didn’t cry when I ended it with the last guy I was dating. I tossed him the Apple Watch that revealed his infidelity, walked away, and never looked back. But when I powered down my iPhone for the last time, my hands were practically shaking. It wasn’t just a phone \u2014 it was the portal. The gateway to every app I’d already deleted months earlier, every algorithm I thought I’d escaped. I quit social media in January, but the device still had me. Powering it down felt like ending the most manipulative relationship I’ve ever had.<\/p>\n
Even without the apps, the phone lingered \u2014 buzzing, glowing, whispering promises of connection. I started to realize: the addiction wasn’t just to the platforms. It was to the phone itself.<\/p>\n
SEE ALSO: <\/a><\/p>\n Since 7th grade, my iPhone was my constant companion \u2014 the one that promised connection with fast access but delivered anxiety. When I deleted social media, I thought I’d cut the cord. But the phone itself kept whispering. It love-bombed me with its sleek design. It gaslit me with every update: This will make your life easier, Apple whispered, while tightening its grip on my daily life. Notifications became manipulation. The absence of apps didn’t mean the absence of control. None of the boys I’ve dated have come close to the psychological grip my iPhone pulled off.<\/p>\n And I’m not alone. iPhones \u2014 and smartphones in general \u2014 stopped being tools a long time ago. They became environments we are engrossed in. The average American spends over five hours a day on their phone and checks it nearly a hundred times daily.<\/a> Globally, people spend almost seven hours on screens every day,<\/a> and for my generation, Gen Z, it’s closer to nine. That’s not convenience; that’s dependency.<\/p>\n Apple started as a company obsessed with liberation. Steve Jobs famously promised tools that would “put a dent in the universe”<\/a> and free us from the tyranny of desks. The early vision was mobility, creativity, and empowerment \u2014 a computer in your pocket so you could live untethered. Instead, they delivered features<\/a> designed to keep us engaged, like push notifications, then entire ecosystems<\/a>, like the App Store, were built to keep us roped in. Services became the priority<\/a>, and the goal became keeping users on the device.<\/p>\n I knew this for years before I acted. But knowing and leaving are different things.\u00a0<\/p>\n It wasn’t until last month that I knew it was time. Over a two week time span, I did two things that fundamentally changed me. First, I tied myself to a 70-foot banner<\/a> at Apple’s iPhone launch in Cupertino pointing to the fact that Tim Cook does not do enough to stop rape videos of children<\/a> from being stored and shared in iCloud. Second, I marched with more than 150 people<\/a> to Apple’s flagship store in New York City to demand accountability: Choose people over profit.\u00a0<\/p>\n \n Mashable Trend Report\n <\/p>\n Standing there, shouting for change, I realized the hypocrisy \u2014 I was tethered to the very product I was protesting. That was the breaking point. It wasn’t just about ethics. It was about identity. I had spent years curating my life through a device that curated me back \u2014 shaping my habits, my attention span, even my sense of self-worth. And suddenly, in front of that glass cube on Fifth Avenue, I saw it clearly: I wasn’t just holding a phone. I was holding the most toxic relationship of my life.<\/p>\n So I broke up with my iPhone and switched to a Motorola Razr.<\/p>\n SEE ALSO: <\/a><\/p>\n I wasn’t bold enough to ditch the smartphone entirely. Instead, I hoped this shock to the system would help me build a healthier relationship with the device. Tech as a tool. The first few weeks felt like withdrawal \u2014 and they still do. I reach for features that aren’t there, panic over missing iMessage blue bubbles, and even feel disoriented. That’s how deep the dependency runs. Research backs it up: 58 percent of teens feel anxious without their phones<\/a>, and 73 percent of adults experience phantom vibrations \u2014 false alerts that mimic withdrawal.<\/p>\n I hate to admit it, but I fell in line with the 90 percent of U.S. college students who say green bubbles make Android users look less cool<\/a> \u2014 and even link them to “fewer friends” and “lower social class.” I worried people would assume I was suddenly unreachable \u2014 that switching to green meant I wasn’t reliable anymore. My friends reinforced it. The first group chat I joined with my new Razr, someone immediately dropped: “Ew, who made this group chat green?”<\/p>\n The Razr isn’t perfect either. It’s still a smartphone, and I’m sure I’ll find some of the same issues that existed on my iPhone. But this switch isn’t just about the tech for me \u2014 it’s also about values. It’s about refusing to support a brand whose CEO will share a meal with a president actively trying to erase people like me. It’s about the heartbreak of watching a Fortune 500 company led by an openly gay man, someone I saw myself in, turn his back on vulnerable young people who are a lot like who he used to be.<\/p>\n That’s the failure of capitalism \u2014 even when you climb to the top, even when you hold unimaginable power, profit still wins over principle. Tim Cook could have been a beacon for inclusion. Instead, he became another executive who forgot the weight of his influence.<\/p>\n So yes, I left my iPhone. But more than that, I left the illusion that Apple was on my side. Breaking up with my phone was a personal revolution \u2014 and a rejection of a system that asks us to trade our dignity for convenience.<\/p>\n I didn’t just leave a device. I walked away from the most toxic relationship of my life. And honestly? I’ve never felt lighter.<\/p>\n This article reflects the opinion of the writer.<\/p>\n Lennon Torres is a Public Voices Fellow on Prevention of Child Sexual Abuse with The OpEd Project. She is an LGBTQ+ advocate who grew up in the public eye, gaining national recognition as a young dancer on television shows. With a deep passion for storytelling, advocacy, and politics, Lennon now works to center the lived experience of herself and others as she crafts her professional career in online child safety at Heat Initiative<\/a>. The opinions reflected in this piece are those of Lennon Torres as an individual and not of the entities she is part of. Lennon\u2019s substack: https:\/\/substack.com\/@lennontorres<\/a><\/p>\n
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