The holidays can be full of fun, food, and awkward conversations.<\/p>\n
Most families have people with varying political views, differing opinions, or longstanding disputes. <\/p>\n
If you\u2019re concerned about an upcoming gathering, experts say it\u2019s important to set clear boundaries in advance.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s a time of togetherness, joining with family and friends to celebrate the holidays. <\/p>\n
But it can also be a season of worry and dread.<\/p>\n
Licensed therapist Jody Baumstein says setting a boundary is not about creating distance. <\/p>\n
\u201cBoundaries are really important for maintaining and protecting our peace,\u201d said Baumstein. <\/p>\n
It\u2019s about staying connected while setting healthy limits.<\/p>\n
Baumstein recommends being proactive and setting a boundary in clear language before the get-together to avoid conflict.<\/p>\n
Keep that message consistent. For example, suggest that a particular topic is off-limits to help keep the peace.<\/p>\n
Then it\u2019s important to accept that you can only control your response to things. <\/p>\n
\u201cWe also spend a lot of mental energy thinking about what the other person is doing, but we don\u2019t have control over them,\u201d Baumstein said.<\/p>\n
You don\u2019t have to explain why you\u2019re saying no to an invitation you feel you can\u2019t handle. <\/p>\n
Again, use clear language. But if you go to an event, be prepared to enforce your boundaries. <\/p>\n
For example, if someone brings up a topic you\u2019ve deemed off limits, you might start with a gentle reminder.<\/p>\n
Also, have a plan on how you\u2019ll handle the situation calmly.<\/p>\n
\u201cIf it comes up again, I\u2019m gonna end the conversation, or if it comes up again, I\u2019m gonna leave the room. Or if needed, if it comes up again, I\u2019m gonna leave,\u201d Baumstein said.<\/p>\n
Baumstein also says it\u2019s important to manage expectations. <\/p>\n
If you\u2019re visiting family, explain beforehand how long you\u2019re staying and when you plan to leave. <\/p>\n
Being clear from the beginning can help you avoid conflict.<\/p>\n
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