Things can get<\/a> complicated in a hurry when money becomes an issue between family members.<\/p>\nAnd things get even trickier when parents and their children are involved.<\/p>\n
In today\u2019s story, a student isn\u2019t too keen on what their parents are asking them about when it comes to potentially taking out bank loans.<\/p>\n
Read on and see what you think.<\/p>\n
\u201cI\u2019m a 30 year old European, living abroad for 10 years.<\/p>\n
My parents have always been bad with money, paying off loans with another loans. Back in the day when I was living with them I\u2019ve had a really tough childhood, but that\u2019s another story.<\/p>\n
The first years after I moved out, they were helping me financially, by sending\u00a0 a couple hundred every few months.<\/p>\n
Later on they talked me into getting a 10k student loan, which I didn\u2019t really need and they wanted me to give some money to them from it.<\/p>\n
I agreed and I have sent them 1-2k from it and the rest I have used by myself.<\/p>\n
But now they want more\u2026<\/p>\n
After some time they were nagging me to take more and bigger loans, which I have refused \u2013 and then have asked me to change the ownership of the house, that my grandmother gave to me, so they are the legal owners.<\/p>\n
I don\u2019t live in my original country anymore, and they are my parents, so I thought why not. I asked them never to ask me about any bank loans anymore, as I have to pay back my student loan for the next years.<\/p>\n
My finances are not as stable yet, as I want them to be. So I gave them a house.<\/p>\n
This is getting to be a problem.<\/p>\n
The next year my parents, especially my father started nagging me to take big credits again, sometimes even up to half a million, which I always refused, so he stopped talking to me, not even caring to write congrats after when I have finally finished my studies.<\/p>\n
I didn\u2019t really care about him, had always better contact with my mother, so when I got a monthly scholarship from my university, for good grades (about 100-200\u20ac in a month) I have send it to my mom, I hoped she will be proud.<\/p>\n
Also I borrowed her once 1000\u20ac, that I didn\u2019t get back. Unfortunately after a while, she also started demanding me to take a loan, this time not such a big one, crying on the phone and totally using my dad\u2019s arguments (who didn\u2019t talk to me since 1,5 years).<\/p>\n
She told the financial help I gave her before was not helpful at all. This was particularly hurtful for me, as in my situation, this 100 or 200\u20ac extra every month would significantly help my budget.<\/p>\n
They\u2019re doing the smart thing.<\/p>\n
I refused her loan request, as I just recently started being able to spare money every month and I don\u2019t want to get into financial troubles, just like them. She started threatening me that soon she moves to me, because else she will have nowhere to live.<\/p>\n
Fun fact is that they have just bought a brand-new SUV (not a very expensive one though), and they allegedly need the money for the ground renovations in the house I gave them. They\u2019re living in another flat that they have rented.<\/p>\n
AITA for not giving a loan and probably finally destroying any contact with my parents?<\/p>\n
Tough thing is, that the whole family doesn\u2019t like my parents, so when I was a kid I grew up being quite isolated by everyone and they also didn\u2019t attend any family events, so basically I have nobody left from family side in my original country, where I\u2019ve lived for 2\/3 of my life.\u201d<\/p>\n
Here\u2019s what folks had to say on Reddit.<\/p>\n
This person weighed in.<\/p>\n
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Another individual said they\u2019re NTA.<\/p>\n
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This Reddit user shared their thoughts.<\/p>\n
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Another reader spoke up.<\/p>\n
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And this individual also said they\u2019re NTA.<\/p>\n
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It sounds like they\u2019re standing firm on this difficult decision.<\/p>\n
If you liked that post, check this one about a guy who got revenge on his condo by making his own Christmas light rules<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Shutterstock\/Reddit Things can get complicated in a hurry when money becomes an issue between family members. And things…\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":512465,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[34],"tags":[2063,3744,51852,224491,97,2067,250,1867],"class_list":["post-512464","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-health","tag-aita","tag-bank","tag-entity","tag-entityaita","tag-health","tag-picture","tag-reddit","tag-top"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/512464","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=512464"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/512464\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/512465"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=512464"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=512464"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=512464"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}