{"id":698503,"date":"2026-06-11T22:00:08","date_gmt":"2026-06-11T22:00:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/698503\/"},"modified":"2026-06-11T22:00:08","modified_gmt":"2026-06-11T22:00:08","slug":"should-i-tell-my-doctor-tips-for-talking-about-health-with-a-physician","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/698503\/","title":{"rendered":"Should I tell my doctor? Tips for talking about health with a physician"},"content":{"rendered":"

Let\u2019s be frank: When you go to see your personal doctor or stop at an urgent care for a quick visit, you probably don\u2019t always tell the physician the whole truth and nothing but the truth. According to one major study<\/a>, between 60 and 80 percent of US adults have reported they withheld at least one pertinent piece of medical information from a healthcare provider during a visit.<\/p>\n

And we do it for the most natural and human reasons. The most common explanations that patients gave for declining to disclose relevant information were not wanting to be lectured, not wanting to be judged for their behavior, and being embarrassed. Women, young people, and the people with the worst health (according to their own self-report) were most likely to hold something back.<\/p>\n

If you have faced discrimination from society because of who you are, you may feel more distrustful of the medical system and its practitioners. Research has found<\/a> that people who have faced prior discrimination are more likely to withhold information from a healthcare provider. And doctors sometimes earn that distrust, especially when it comes to women<\/a> and people of color. Our era of do-it-yourself medicine only adds more barriers between patients and their doctors. One survey found<\/a> that more than 40 percent of US adults who had used alternative or complementary medicine did not disclose that fact to their primary care doctor.<\/p>\n

Doctors bear some of the blame for this disconnect. But, at a time when people say they want more agency over their healthcare, the rest of us have to hold up our side of the conversation, too. Here\u2019s how to think about how honest you should be with your doctor.<\/p>\n

The key question you should ask yourself about being honest with your doctor<\/p>\n

There is no shame in feeling uncomfortable sharing information with your doctor. I spoke with Dr. Ronald Epstein<\/a>, a professor of family medicine at the University of Rochester Medical Center who has written extensively on patient-doctor communication and authored the book Attending: Medicine, Mindfulness, and Humanity<\/a> as a guide for doctors who want to practice a more humane kind of medicine. Epstein said he\u2019s been tempted to not tell his doctor when he misses doses of his prescribed medication because he felt embarrassed, and even withheld information once when he didn\u2019t want to spark a lot of burdensome follow-up work; he had fallen down while skiing after bumping into a rock. Because Epstein is 71, his provider routinely screens for any recent falls, and he knew that answering \u201cyes\u201d would lead to a range of tests and consultations with specialists. So he answered \u201cno,\u201d because he felt certain the fall had been a freak accident, not a symptom of an underlying health problem.<\/p>\n

I appreciated Epstein making that confession, because it was a reminder that any of us, even somebody who has committed much of their career to open doctor-patient communication, can be tempted to hold something back from a doctor because it seems like it\u2019ll be a hassle.<\/p>\n

But even as he shared it, he offered a warning to other people not to follow his example.<\/p>\n

\u201cThe danger in doing that, of course, is if someone actually fell while turning around on a landing while going downstairs, that could signal some kind of balance or neurologic disorder,\u201d he told me.<\/p>\n

To state the obvious, your clinician can\u2019t provide you with the best care if they don\u2019t know everything about your health. That\u2019s especially important in high-stakes situations. One study found<\/a> that one in four patients who were experiencing an imminent threat to their well-being \u2014 depression, suicidal ideation, abuse, or sexual assault \u2014 withheld that information from their doctor. Once again, they feared being embarrassed or being judged.<\/p>\n

So, to start with, there are certain things your doctor really needs to know if they are going to properly evaluate your health and that you should never lie about or withhold:<\/p>\n

Which prescription drugs you are currently onWhether you\u2019re actually taking them as prescribedAny other substances you are consuming, including those that are legal but potentially harmful (like tobacco or alcohol) and ones that are illegal, and how much\/how often you are using them<\/p>\n

Even if it is awkward or you fear judgment, the risks in withholding that kind of information are high. Beyond that, Epstein suggested one question that every patient should ask themselves when interacting with a doctor.<\/p>\n

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\u201cI think the key question for patients to ask themselves and for families to ask themselves is: Would withholding this information threaten or enhance the health of the person involved?\u201d he told me.<\/p>\n

Doctors have a responsibility to make their patients feel comfortable enough to be honest. But from the patient\u2019s perspective, this question cuts to the heart of the matter. If you withhold a certain piece of information from your provider, does it put your and a loved one\u2019s health at risk? You should also ask the inverse of this question: Could sharing the information lead to a better outcome for you or your loved one?<\/p>\n

At the end of the day, these are judgment calls for each individual to make. But think the situation through and be honest with yourself. Are you really equipped to be the judge of whether a certain piece of information is relevant to your or your loved one\u2019s health \u2014 or should you let the doctor decide? If you withhold some information, Epstein said, \u201cyou\u2019re taking the risk that you know better versus being transparent and letting your doctor make that judgment.\u201d<\/p>\n

Communication between doctor and patient is a two-way street<\/p>\n

Building a good relationship between doctors and patients is, as Epstein put it to me, \u201ca shared responsibility.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cThere are two aspects of any healing tradition. One is the technical and instrumental pieces. That is the drugs you prescribe, the surgeries, the manipulations you do,\u201d he said. \u201cThe other is relational. That is the achievement of shared understanding, trust, confidence, and sometimes optimism so that people can really make decisions on their own behalf and feel empowered.\u201d<\/p>\n

Epstein trained at Harvard Medical School in the 1980s, as the AIDS crisis was beginning, and he still recalls the sometimes awkward conversations doctors and the people they were treating had to have about sex. Even though the stakes were clearly life and death, many doctors were too embarrassed to ask detailed questions about people\u2019s safer sex practices. Sex, drugs, and money remain sensitive and uncomfortable subjects, but they can have a huge bearing on a person\u2019s health.<\/p>\n

Doctors can easily build walls between themselves and their patients without even realizing it \u2014 and, sometimes, even a subtle change can make patients feel more welcome. Asking \u201care you taking your medications daily?\u201d in an abrupt, scolding fashion could lead a person to lie and say yes to avoid being judged. A softer approach \u2014 \u201cit\u2019s hard to remember to take pills every day, how are you doing with that?\u201d \u2014 could yield more honest answers for a question that has serious clinical implications.<\/p>\n

\u201cIf the pills are something that if you miss a dose, you might suffer severe consequences, then it can be life and death,\u201d Epstein said.<\/p>\n

People often feel nervous during medical appointments \u2014 I know that\u2019s true for myself \u2014 and Epstein said doctors should take care to make sure their patients are absorbing the information. Asking them to repeat back instructions, for example, can act as a backstop to avoid any miscommunication.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, the solution can be as simple as phrasing questions in an open-ended way. \u201cDo you have any more questions?\u201d could lead to a quick \u201cno\u201d from an anxious patient, while posing \u201cwhat questions do you have?\u201d might invite a more open dialogue.<\/p>\n

Epstein has a favorite Frank Kafka quote that illustrates the challenge: \u201cTo write prescriptions is easy. To come to human understanding is difficult.\u201d Good medicine requires both.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Let\u2019s be frank: When you go to see your personal doctor or stop at an urgent care for…\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":698504,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[59],"tags":[191309,97,252,253,5599],"class_list":["post-698503","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-health-care","tag-good-medicine","tag-health","tag-health-care","tag-healthcare","tag-public-health"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/698503","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=698503"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/698503\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/698504"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=698503"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=698503"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=698503"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}