{"id":717968,"date":"2026-06-21T20:37:16","date_gmt":"2026-06-21T20:37:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/717968\/"},"modified":"2026-06-21T20:37:16","modified_gmt":"2026-06-21T20:37:16","slug":"after-opening-up-about-cancer-a-man-feels-hurt-when-his-friend-shifts-the-focus-to-herself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/717968\/","title":{"rendered":"After Opening Up About Cancer, A Man Feels Hurt When His Friend Shifts The Focus To Herself"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-826799\" class=\"wp-image-826799\" src=\"https:\/\/twistedsifter.com\/wp-content\/plugins\/lazy-load-0.7\/images\/1x1.trans.gif\" alt=\"couple having an argument\" width=\"800\" height=\"450\" title=\"After Opening Up About Cancer, A Man Feels Hurt When His Friend Shifts The Focus To Herself\" data-lazy-src=\"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/oooocococo.jpg\" data-lazy- data-lazy-\/><\/p>\n<p id=\"caption-attachment-826799\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Shutterstock<\/p>\n<p>We all have <a href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AmItheAsshole\/comments\/1u0jz1p\/aitah_for_telling_my_friend_my_cancer_diagnosis\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">people in our<\/a> lives who seem to make everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, about themselves.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s pretty frustrating to deal with folks like this because, no matter what you tell them, it always seems to come back to them.<\/p>\n<p>Ugh!<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s so annoying!<\/p>\n<p>And you\u2019re about to hear a doozy of a story\u2026<\/p>\n<p>A man talked about how his friend made his cancer diagnosis, yes, you read that correctly, all about HER.<\/p>\n<p>Take a look at what he had to say.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI (22M) have had cancer (Melanoma) for years.<\/p>\n<p>I first got diagnosed at 17, went in remission, then over the years, it has come back several times.<\/p>\n<p>This is awful\u2026<\/p>\n<p>This time, it is more than one type of cancer, and in more than one part of my body.<\/p>\n<p>I had the biopsy to determine whether it was cancer and what type last month. I got the call confirming it this morning.<\/p>\n<p>Most people have been super supportive and kind, and most of my friends and family have been trying to help me out as much as they can ever since I got the biopsy done.<\/p>\n<p>Well, once I got the call, I called my friend (23F) to tell her what was going on. Let\u2019s call her K. As soon as I told her, she started sobbing, told me she couldn\u2019t handle this news.<\/p>\n<p>She sounds a bit clueless\u2026<\/p>\n<p>I asked her what she meant, and she said she\u2019s been dealing with a lot lately because she didn\u2019t have enough money to pay rent after buying herself a bunch of new clothes.<\/p>\n<p>For context, she lives with her parents and the rent she pays isn\u2019t even used for rent, it\u2019s to pay back the money she stole from her parents last year.<\/p>\n<p>Admittedly, this upset me a little bit, because I felt like she was focusing more on how she felt about the situation rather than how I felt. At first, I apologized for making her upset and asked if she wanted to talk later, when she wasn\u2019t so upset.<\/p>\n<p>Well, thats when she said \u201cI just keep getting bad news after bad news after bad news! Haven\u2019t I been through enough?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>And she\u2019s also pretty rude!<\/p>\n<p>That threw me off guard a little bit, and I ended up asking her if she really thought her inability to keep track of her finances and spending all of her money instead of saving it like she was supposed to was worse than my cancer diagnosis.<\/p>\n<p>I know I could have handled this better, but I was, and still am, all over the place emotionally.<\/p>\n<p>She got angry with me, told me I had no right to comment on her financial situation, and that I\u2019m a terrible friend for throwing her pain and suffering in her face, and then she hung up on me.<\/p>\n<p>A lot of our mutual friends have come to me saying that I was a huge asshole, and that I should have some empathy for the \u201cless fortunate\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>AITA?<\/p>\n<p>Did I overreact?<\/p>\n<p>Should I have let this go?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>If you enjoyed this story, <a href=\"https:\/\/twistedsifter.com\/2026\/06\/teenage-girls-small-group-leader-told-everyone-to-pay-for-their-own-food-but-her-mom-got-angry-because-she-had-given-the-leader-200-to-pay-for-everyones-food\/?utm_source=IN-ARTICLE&amp;utm_medium=IN-ARTICLE&amp;utm_campaign=IN-ARTICLE\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">check out this post<\/a> about a mom who is irate after she gave a group leader money for her daughter\u2019s lunch, only to have him pocket the cash and ask all of the kids to pay their own way.<\/p>\n<p>Check out what readers had to say about this.<\/p>\n<p>This person said he\u2019s NTA.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/twistedsifter.com\/wp-content\/plugins\/lazy-load-0.7\/images\/1x1.trans.gif\" alt=\"envelope 80 After Opening Up About Cancer, A Man Feels Hurt When His Friend Shifts The Focus To Herself\" height=\"60\" width=\"60\" title=\"After Opening Up About Cancer, A Man Feels Hurt When His Friend Shifts The Focus To Herself\" data-lazy-src=\"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/envelope-80.jpg\"\/><\/p>\n<p>Never Miss a Story<\/p>\n<p>Sign up to get our BEST stories of the week straight to your inbox.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-826550\" src=\"https:\/\/twistedsifter.com\/wp-content\/plugins\/lazy-load-0.7\/images\/1x1.trans.gif\" alt=\"Screenshot 2026 06 18 at 9.03.55 PM After Opening Up About Cancer, A Man Feels Hurt When His Friend Shifts The Focus To Herself\" width=\"800\" height=\"1026\" title=\"After Opening Up About Cancer, A Man Feels Hurt When His Friend Shifts The Focus To Herself\" data-lazy-src=\"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/Screenshot-2026-06-18-at-9.03.55-PM.jpg\" data-lazy- data-lazy-\/><\/p>\n<p>Another reader weighed in.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-826551\" src=\"https:\/\/twistedsifter.com\/wp-content\/plugins\/lazy-load-0.7\/images\/1x1.trans.gif\" alt=\"Screenshot 2026 06 18 at 9.03.07 PM After Opening Up About Cancer, A Man Feels Hurt When His Friend Shifts The Focus To Herself\" width=\"800\" height=\"690\" title=\"After Opening Up About Cancer, A Man Feels Hurt When His Friend Shifts The Focus To Herself\" data-lazy-src=\"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/Screenshot-2026-06-18-at-9.03.07-PM.jpg\" data-lazy- data-lazy-\/><\/p>\n<p>This Reddit user shared their thoughts.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-826552\" src=\"https:\/\/twistedsifter.com\/wp-content\/plugins\/lazy-load-0.7\/images\/1x1.trans.gif\" alt=\"Screenshot 2026 06 18 at 9.03.22 PM After Opening Up About Cancer, A Man Feels Hurt When His Friend Shifts The Focus To Herself\" width=\"800\" height=\"778\" title=\"After Opening Up About Cancer, A Man Feels Hurt When His Friend Shifts The Focus To Herself\" data-lazy-src=\"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/Screenshot-2026-06-18-at-9.03.22-PM.jpg\" data-lazy- data-lazy-\/><\/p>\n<p>Another individual spoke up.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-826553\" src=\"https:\/\/twistedsifter.com\/wp-content\/plugins\/lazy-load-0.7\/images\/1x1.trans.gif\" alt=\"Screenshot 2026 06 18 at 9.03.31 PM After Opening Up About Cancer, A Man Feels Hurt When His Friend Shifts The Focus To Herself\" width=\"800\" height=\"1150\" title=\"After Opening Up About Cancer, A Man Feels Hurt When His Friend Shifts The Focus To Herself\" data-lazy-src=\"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/Screenshot-2026-06-18-at-9.03.31-PM.jpg\" data-lazy- data-lazy-\/><\/p>\n<p>And this person also said he\u2019s NTA.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-826554\" src=\"https:\/\/twistedsifter.com\/wp-content\/plugins\/lazy-load-0.7\/images\/1x1.trans.gif\" alt=\"Screenshot 2026 06 18 at 9.03.46 PM After Opening Up About Cancer, A Man Feels Hurt When His Friend Shifts The Focus To Herself\" width=\"800\" height=\"869\" title=\"After Opening Up About Cancer, A Man Feels Hurt When His Friend Shifts The Focus To Herself\" data-lazy-src=\"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/Screenshot-2026-06-18-at-9.03.46-PM.jpg\" data-lazy- data-lazy-\/><\/p>\n<p>Wow\u2026<\/p>\n<p>This guy\u2019s friend is really something else, huh?<\/p>\n<p>That was brutal!<\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s hope she grows up and comes to her senses soon\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Some people have to make EVERYTHING about them\u2026<\/p>\n<p>If you enjoyed this story, <a 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