Silicon Valley\u2019s latest gold rush is for husbands \u2014 specifically husbands who work in AI.<\/p>\n
Chinese and Chinese American women are flocking to Silicon Valley from across the country and around the globe with the aim of landing a husband who works in AI. <\/p>\n
\u201cThe first tier is Anthropic and OpenAI,\u201d said Qinghua Zhao, founder of 2RedBeans, which bills itself as the largest Chinese dating site in North America<\/a>. \u201cIf you\u2019re at one of those big companies, especially the AI ones, it\u2019s obvious they\u2019ll be huge the moment they go public.\u201d<\/p>\n Singles mingle at a 2RedBeans mixer in Silicon Valley. Founder Qinghua Zhao says AI engineers now top some women\u2019s wish lists. Courtesy of 2RedBeans<\/p>\n Zhao, who founded 2RedBeans \u2014 whose name symbolize love and longing in Chinese culture \u2014 15 years ago, said clients\u2019 wish lists have become more specific. Her Chinese clients used to just say they wanted to find someone on America\u2019s East or West Coast. But, in recent years, they\u2019ve gotten increasingly particular.<\/p>\n Qinghua Zhao founded 2RedBeans 15 years ago to help Chinese singles in North America find love.<\/p>\n \u201cMore are specifying Silicon Valley,\u201d she said. \u201cAnd within Silicon Valley, they used to look for engineers in general. Now they\u2019re more explicit: AI engineers are their first choice.\u201d<\/p>\n Amy Yang, a former tax analyst at Oracle who now runs \u201cMatchmaker Amy,\u201d a Bay Area-based matchmaking business, has noticed a similar trend.<\/p>\n \u201cIt\u2019s very common,\u201d she told the Post. \u201cThe women who move here from out of town all want an engineer \u2026 [and] AI, of course, is better.\u201d<\/p>\n Bay Area matchmaker Amy Yang says Chinese women fly in every week looking for a partner<\/p>\n One Los Angeles client was considering a six-month stay in San Francisco specifically because OpenAI and other AI companies are there, Yang said.<\/p>\n Sue Zhong, 34, was born in China and currently lives in LA. She has consulted several matchmakers, including Yang, whose package she said costs $1,500 for three introductions, to help find a husband in AI. <\/p>\n Entrepreneur Sue Zhong, 34, hopes to meet a like-minded partner and is curious about AI founders changing the world. Courtesy of Sue Zhong<\/p>\n \u201cI think there are people [in Silicon Valley] who want to change the world,\u201d she said. \u201cI find that interesting.\u201d<\/p>\n A anonymous divorced Chinese businesswoman in her 40s told The Post that snaring a man in AI is a smart investment. <\/p>\n \u201cFor me, marriage now is a restructuring of assets,\u201d said the woman, who declined to share her name for privacy reasons.<\/p>\n While she and her son from her first marriage are currently in China, she plans to settle in Silicon Valley. <\/p>\n \u201cFor someone like me, I definitely have to find someone whose future I can see,\u201d she said. \u201cI don\u2019t mind helping him grow, but there\u2019s risk in that process.\u201d<\/p>\n She\u2019s especially interested in men at AI companies preparing to go public. <\/p>\n Anthropic is reportedly targeting a mid-November IPO<\/a>, with a potential valuation above $2 trillion. OpenAI remains private but has already delivered life-changing windfalls. More than 600 current and former employees sold $6.6 billion worth of shares<\/a> in October 2025, with roughly 75 cashing out $30 million each. <\/p>\n Anthropic CEO Dario Amodei, center left, with Salesforce CEO Marc Benioff at Dreamforce in San Francisco. Matchmaker Qinghua Zhao ranks Anthropic and OpenAI men in the \u201cfirst tier.\u201d Getty Images<\/p>\n That\u2019s the sort of wealth she\u2019s aiming for.<\/p>\n Sue Zhong, 34, is ready to travel from LA to Silicon Valley to meet a potential husband. Courtesy of Sue Zhong<\/p>\n \u201cA man on a salary doesn\u2019t have much left after tax. I\u2019ve been through the whole system,\u201d she said. \u201cUnless, he\u2019s a senior CEO or someone in that higher-income group.\u201d<\/p>\n Landing a man with a promising stock package, however, takes more than a plane ticket.<\/p>\n \u201cEspecially in tech, many people go straight from school into a company. Their colleagues and friends tend to have similar backgrounds,\u201d said Yang. \u201cThey\u2019re busy with work, have limited time to socialize, and aren\u2019t necessarily used to approaching strangers.\u201d<\/p>\n To find AI guys for her clients, Zhao starts with 2RedBeans\u2019 database, then asks friends at big tech companies for referrals. <\/p>\n Attendees gather at OpenAI\u2019s DevDay conference in San Francisco in 2026. Matchmakers say men at the company are prized marriage prospects. AP Photo\/Jeff Chiu<\/p>\n Yang also recruits beyond her existing clients, tapping friends, former clients, industry contacts and fellow matchmakers to find suitable men.<\/p>\n Zhao notes that many of these men aren\u2019t known for their dating abilities. <\/p>\n \u201cThey have had more training in technical things and logic, and less in emotions,\u201d she said. \u201cThe thing about the crowd gathered in Silicon Valley is their IQ is very high and their EQ, not necessarily.<\/p>\n A couple holds hands at a caf\u00e9. One businesswoman hoping to settle in Silicon Valley describes marriage as \u201ca restructuring of assets.\u201d Stock photo. AntonioDiaz \u2013 stock.adobe.com<\/p>\n \u201cTheir thinking is simple. They want someone who understands them and is warm.\u201d<\/p>\n Yang believes that successful men in AI demand a partner who has a career of her own.<\/p>\n \u201cEven if he\u2019s an AI scientist, he wants her to have at least a bachelor\u2019s degree and a stable job in the Bay Area,\u201d she said. <\/p>\n Singles meet face to face at a 2RedBeans speed-dating dinner in Silicon Valley. Courtesy of 2RedBeans<\/p>\n And, Zhao noted, with success comes higher expectations.<\/p>\n \u201cIf his own net worth has gone up,\u201d she said, \u201cthen of course he wants someone a bit prettier.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Silicon Valley\u2019s latest gold rush is for husbands \u2014 specifically husbands who work in AI. 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