DEAR ABBY: I am a 67-year-old man who has two sisters. Recently, I was at my younger sister \u201cMitzi\u2019s\u201d house, installing some blinds. While there, I received a phone call from my girlfriend. (We have been together nine months, after my wife passed last year.) My girlfriend and I were discussing finances, including the topic of my older sister, \u201cCarolyn,\u201d borrowing money last year.<\/p>\n
\tA few days later, Carolyn called me, upset that I had discussed our financial arrangement with my girlfriend. (It turns out Mitzi had recorded the conversation on her Ring cameras while I was there alone.) Now, both sisters are mad at me. This all started when I told Mitzi that associating with her ex-husband who verbally and physically abused her years earlier was a mistake. He was arrested for domestic violence and incarcerated for a while for committing other crimes. <\/p>\n
\tMitzi did not have my permission to share that recording I had no knowledge of. She was not a participant in the conversation. Now, my girlfriend is concerned because she was looking forward to building a good relationship with my sisters and now does not think Carolyn will let her. Any advice? — DRAMA-FILLED IN NEW YORK<\/p>\n
DEAR DRAMA-FILLED: Just this: Remember none of this would have happened if you hadn\u2019t done a favor for Sister Mitzi by installing her blinds. <\/p>\n
Unless you were sworn to secrecy, there is no reason you shouldn\u2019t have discussed the loan you made to Sister Carolyn with your girlfriend. <\/p>\n
If they continue giving you a hard time, warn them that if they don\u2019t both apologize for breaching your privacy, you are done being their handyman and moneylender. You should also make clear that, at a minimum, you expect them to treat your girlfriend with respect. <\/p>\n
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